Are The People You Love Stealing Your Dreams?

Janice M. Flanders
3 min readJan 12, 2022

Sometimes you have to keep your ideas to yourself.

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You come up with an amazing idea or a goal that you are excited about. You immediately want to share it with a loved one. Someone who supports you, someone who has your back.

You begin to tell the person your thoughts, feelings, etc. You even have a step-by-step plan on how you will go about achieving your goal. At first, your person will tell you how great your idea sounds. They will tell you how much they admire you.

Then, they will begin to pepper you with questions, saying things like “Have you really thought this over?” Or the evergreen “I just want to make sure you know what you are getting into” part of their speech. By the time they are finished with you, you’re second-guessing yourself. You can’t believe how dumb your dream is now that you’ve said it out loud.

Mind you, your person(s) may not have deliberately said these things to discourage you, they sincerely love you and believe they’re successfully advising you. You have, however, been successfully knee-capped. Now that your enthusiasm for your goal has been stolen, you feel deflated. Your mindset may be to put your dream upon the shelf, on the back burner, or wherever it is people keep their dreams. You will revisit it later. Much, much later. Another dream deferred.

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When reading biographies of people who have created or accomplished great things, there are many traits they all have in common. Mainly, they did not let anyone talk them out of their dream. They also quietly worked on their plans, unbeknownst to others. Until they could present progress, that is.

I temper this by saying, some ideas goals are not feasible or well thought out, and you should listen to wise counsel. Think Icarus’s daddy, Daedalus. Daedalus told his son not to fly too close to the sun with wings held together by wax. We all know how that turned out.

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Janice M. Flanders

Writer/Journalist. Artist. Environmental Justice Advocate. Social Media Analyst. Friend to the Planet and it’s creatures. I love words, birds, and nerds.